Moving in Silence

We are in an oversharing epidemic. While spreading awareness about different topics is great, sharing every intimate detail of your life is not. I tend to be an oversharer at times. It is not because I want people to know everything, but rather, it is because I am a chatterbox that gets excited to share good things. However, after years of therapy and social media hiatuses, I have realized that the only way to be your best self in this world is to SHUT UP. Like I mentioned in a past post, just because you didn't post it, doesn't mean it didn't happen. People tend to post the best parts of their lives while the chaotic underbelly remains hidden. This makes for a reality that lacks the operative word, real.

Over the years, I have learned that not everyone is happy for you when you achieve things. In therapy, I learned that while you think everyone is happy for you, many may not be. Jealousy is sinister, and it even festers in the hearts of those that present as your friends. While you are celebrating your come up, others maybe be praying for your downfall. The scariest part about this is,you will never know who is for you and who isn't until the truth prevails. Now, this is not to scare anyone from disclosing their dreams and aspirations. It is to express the importance of boundaries and sharing the most precious thoughts and experiences with those that have your best interest. Additionally, this is a way to see things to fruition without having external distractions and expectations that you have not placed on yourself. I believe it is important to build a foundation that consists of your energy and work before allowing others access. While this may sound easy, it is quite difficult.

In the age of social media, we feel the need to share every small thing we achieve towards our overarching goals. However, sometimes, goals are not achieved and dreams don't become reality. When we share everything, sometimes this invites unwanted criticism, embarrassment when failure occurs, and possible negative energy. So, now what? How will you get the good news out? Live in it and let it speak for itself. Share bits and pieces, but don't share the details. Be surface level in your language and preserve the rest for yourself and your loved ones. It is easier said than done, but it can be done. This is how you master the art of celebration and self-preservation all at once. So, I leave you with the following message: experience it, believe it, and relish in it. Even if no one saw the journey, it happened. You made it.

From: Me

To: You